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Debunking Ethnic Rejection & Embracing Natural Black Hair

The Truth About Natural Hair Continued

I'll get fired.  I won't be able to get a job.  I'll have to wear a wig to interviews.
I have discovered since being natural that we tend to elevate others' opinions  Instead of getting our grown woman/man on, we allow our fears to consume us.  That’s not to say that negativity toward natural  doesn't exist, but like most things in life, it's all in how you work it and sometimes you have to compromise.  Would you wear a mini-skirt to a board meeting?  How about fish-net stockings?  Own a pair of heels?  When are they ever comfortable?  Would you wear sweat pants on a date?

My point is, we make adjustments in our appearance based on where we're going.  Where some clothing may be appropriate at the club, it's not in a work environment...unless you're a stripper.  The same goes for hair styles.  Some styles may indeed be unprofessional.  For example, some regard cornrows as unprofessional but braids are ok.  If you prescribe to this theory and are fearful of being fired, I guess you won't be wearing cornrows then.  But is that the end of the world?  You have options.  Use them.

Natural hair is as professional as you wanna make it.   Or look at it this way, if you're so professional, so together, then aren't you capable of figuring out how to "professionally" wear your hair?  Or do you only excel in endeavors that don't involve celebrating Ebony hair and skin?

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naaniMODEL DreamyPisces After the Big Chop

I don't like the way natural hair looks.
As my teenage cousin would say, "you stupid."  No really, "you stupid."

I have Ebony female friends who all but spit whenever they see an Ebony man with a non-Ebony woman.  I myself can't blame the brotha.  Who wants to be with a woman who can't stand looking at herself in the mirror?

I don't want to be bald.  What if my hair doesn't grow?
Take a look at the photo to the right of naaniMODEL DreamyPisces.  Then check out the photo below.  We have tons of examples, some loosely curled, some coarse, but all demonstrate the FACT is natural hair does indeed grow.

Healthy hair grows an average of .5inches per month or 6inches per year.  Hair also goes through infrequent phases of excessive growth or none at all.  For example, some pregnant women experience i


ncreased growth while with child and extreme hair loss post-delivery. 

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naaniMODEL DreamyPisces...Look, her hair actually grew!


Natural ethnic or Black hair has a tendency to curl or coil so it's really hard to see the growth.  Whereas when your hair is relaxed, you've broken the bonds that comprise our hair so that it's far easier to see growth.  Your hair will grow.  You're not so special to defy nature...well, you can when you relax your hair but your new-growth still gone be Nappy

I like straight hair.
If Madame Walker were alive she'd smack you...at least I hope she would.  There's always the straightening comb.  You know that tool that was widely used before mothers started relaxing their 5 year olds hair?  Use a light pressing oil and hotcomb your hair with medium-high heat or heat setting.  You can have straight hair on Monday and sport a bangin' Afro on First Fridays.

Natural hair takes too much effort.  I don't want to spend too much time on my hair.
Most natural styles require little maintenance.  Once they're done, they're done.  It doesn't take much time to pick out a fro.  If you opt for braids, cornrows, comb-coils, two-strand twists, you can go 2-3 weeks without needing to do so much as spray them with oil sheen. 

With relaxed hair, you're breaking out the curling iron every morning or the rollers at night.  You're greasing your scalp because it's dry.  You're spending money every 4-6 weeks for touch-ups.  You're going to the salon at 4pm only to leave at 7pm because your stylist is multi-tasking and doing 3 client heads at once. 

Too much effort?  Right!




So what are you thinking now?
Hopefully, you're reevaluating your perception of natural hair.  Hopefully, the next time you see a Sista with natural hair you feel inspired rather than disgusted.  A natural hair journey can be the most freeing thing you'll ever do in your life.  Where many people who've never gone natural regard what sprouts from their head as "just hair," if they were really honest with themselves, they'd realize that it's not...not in this post-slavery culture.  If it were "just hair," most of us would be bald.
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Comments

Comment #1 (Posted by Nicholle) Rating: ratingfullratingfullratingfullratingfullratingfull Unrated
Thank you, thank you, thank you for writing this article. I have been battling the self/Ebony loathers, the haters, and the ignorant for years now! I gave up my relaxer 10 years ago as an experiment while in college and I absolutely loved it. I loved seeing how my hair grew and loved experimenting with new styles. I must admit that I also loved schooling all those who made negative comments about me needing to get a relaxer. This article is wonderful and I wish I had the time and funds to print it out and distribute it to any and all who have questions, comments or criticisms of my natural do.
Comment #2 (Posted by Valerie) Rating: ratingfullratingfullratingfullratingfullratingfull Unrated
This is great. I have been natural for over 10 years due to an operation I had. Once I went natural, I could not go back to the perms or weaves. I love natural waves. One of my co-workers asked if I was mixed with another nationality. I laughed at that ridiculous question. I simply told her this is all natural. No chemicals, no texturizer, it's just me. And I love it. This was a wonderful article. I forwarded it to my sisters and close friends. But the majority of my friends are natural as well. I am also in lonve with Naani products. I even turned my daughter on with the product. As a black woman, I am a firm believer that my hair is my crown and glory. I proudly sport my natural styles every day. I wish there were other women who would stay away from the chemicals and try to wear their hair naturally. They will never go back. Again I appreciate this article.
Comment #3 (Posted by Tonya) Rating: ratingfullratingfullratingfullratingfullratingfull Unrated
Thank you so much for this article. I'm a grown woman and personally never needed any validation from anyone when it came to what I wanted to do. I've been natural for 1year and 7months yesterday. When I did the big chop I called my-self sexy and you couldnt tell me otherwise. I even incourage my teenage daughter to go natural and she's been natural for only a few months shy of my date. If only other sistas knew what we know, they'd never go back to relaxers. "Sexy" is not in your hair. Beauty is truly within.
Comment #4 (Posted by tgal) Rating: ratingfullratingfullratingfullratingfullratingfull Unrated
it's an eye-opening write-up.wot wud u advise nigerians to do with their natural hair,since it's not as curly as that of black americans? also au can obtain ur hair products in nigeria?can u recommend any natural ways or ingredient that can be used?
Comment #5 (Posted by an unknown user) Rating: ratingfullratingfullratingfullratingfullratingfull Unrated
Thanks for this article! This is my 3rd time going natural; I did the BC 11 months ago. Since then I've noticed a couple of health professionals who went natural and they looked naturally fabulous, like I knew they would. I'm trying to get my mother to go natural (again). She rocked the 'fro in the late '70's - mid '80's, so it shouldn't be too much trouble.
Comment #6 (Posted by Melinda Thompson) Rating: ratingfullratingfullratingfullratingfullratingfull Unrated
I soo echo the sentiments of these articles, I did my BC on Feb 16,2009 and my husband nearly lost his mind, which let me know that he must have married me 4 my WEAVED or TREE BRAIDED BLONDE HAIR!!!
Comment #7 (Posted by Cristina Godette) Rating: ratingfullratingfullratingfullratingfullratingfull Unrated
A WELL WRITTEN ARTICLE!!! Jan.2009 I took a leap of faith and decided this year I was going to get fit and in the process I found this desire to go natural. I didn't tell a soul not even my husband! So here I am 5 months and 21 lbs later still going strong. I love the new me I'm becoming. Oh yeah my husband loves it!!!!
Comment #8 (Posted by SoCaliana) Rating: ratingfullratingfullratingfullratingfullratingfull Unrated
Wonderful article! I'm almost 50 years old, and quit the chemicals in the late 1980s. I went natural seven years, then grew my first set of locs down to my waist. Had to chop them off because they were a little heavy when wet (!). Started my second set of locs from single strand twists two years ago. They're now at my shoulders and good for a few more years till I have to chop them again for being heavy when wet :-) Always embrace your natural hair, it's SO BEAUTIFUL!


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