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Top 6 Reasons Couples Break Up
- By Robert Bell
- Published 02/11/2009
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These days it seems like the relationships we have with the ones we love are so fragile, it hardly takes anything to shatter them. The list of possible relationship killers is a mile long, but really it's not so bad. Most of the biggest culprits are avoidable or fixable, and in the interest of helping you out with any relationship troubles you may be having, I'm going to list off the "Big 6."
1) Unfaithfulness is a supreme destroyer of relationships...nothing really wounds a person so much as when his/her partner isn't happy enough at home that he/she decides to go looking for what's missing in other places. Cheating on your lover is probably the coldest, most hurtful thing you can do to a person and usually results in nigh-unfixable breakups...so the best way to deal with the problem is to never have it in the first place.
2) Neglecting your partner's feelings is another really hurtful thing that can cause a breakup, and in fact does a lot of the time. People have emotions, even the guys who like to act like they don't so much...and it really hurts when they're never considered by the person whom the love the most. Always listen to your partner, and be considerate of how he/she feels.
3) Everybody knows that no relationship goes on for very long without the occasional fight...but it's important to not get too fired up in these conflicts. A bad temper and refusal to calm down and listen is the absolute of all the WRONG ways to handle fights. Take things with as
1) Unfaithfulness is a supreme destroyer of relationships...nothing really wounds a person so much as when his/her partner isn't happy enough at home that he/she decides to go looking for what's missing in other places. Cheating on your lover is probably the coldest, most hurtful thing you can do to a person and usually results in nigh-unfixable breakups...so the best way to deal with the problem is to never have it in the first place.
2) Neglecting your partner's feelings is another really hurtful thing that can cause a breakup, and in fact does a lot of the time. People have emotions, even the guys who like to act like they don't so much...and it really hurts when they're never considered by the person whom the love the most. Always listen to your partner, and be considerate of how he/she feels.
3) Everybody knows that no relationship goes on for very long without the occasional fight...but it's important to not get too fired up in these conflicts. A bad temper and refusal to calm down and listen is the absolute of all the WRONG ways to handle fights. Take things with as
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4) I know it's hilarious in the movies to see a comedy actor's face go white with fear when he sees that the number on his cell phone's Caller ID is his control-freak wife, but in the real world an overbearing partner can really add a lot of stress to a relationship and strain the "victim" to the limits. As much as your partner may love you, you don't want him to get fed up with constant harassment or end up dreading talking to you. Without trust, a relationship will fail...so let go of the reins a bit before the poor person starts running for his/her life!
5) Lack of spontanaeity and fun can be as deadly to a relationship as any other problem, but in my opinion it's the most tragic of all the reasons a couple could break up. No relationship should be allowed to dissolve due to boredom and lack of interest...you two people love each other, so it's a horrible shame to think that you could separate simply from lack of "fun." Don't freak out and become clingy, but make time for each other and do things you both really enjoy. Keep the relationship alive by feeding it good times and warm feelings.
6) Your partner may not leave you because you constantly pop your shoulder or fidget with anything you can get your hands on, but a slew of constant annoying habits can really raise the pressure point in a relationship to the point of explosion. Usually it takes a lot of irritation of this kind to cause real damage, but for crying out loud try to get ahold of yourself. Everyone has a few annoying habits, but if they really bother your partner try to break yourself of them.
There are a lot of things that can contribute to the "demise" of a relationship, and these are really just a few of them...but by thinking this way you should have a good shot at identifying any of the things that are really hurting your relationship...and if you're in the middle of a breakup, then addressing problems like these could really help your chances of getting through it with your partner still by your side!
