Comments on: A White Woman Explains Why She Prefers Black Men http://fromgrandmaskitchen.com/boilingpoint/2009/07/18/a-white-woman-explains-why-she-prefers-black-men/ From Grandmas Kitchen Boiling Point Blog discusses a variety of controversial issues from politics to culture. Wed, 14 Jul 2010 01:26:24 -0400 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: LAINE http://fromgrandmaskitchen.com/boilingpoint/2009/07/18/a-white-woman-explains-why-she-prefers-black-men/#comment-2319 LAINE Mon, 14 Jun 2010 21:12:41 +0000 http://fromgrandmaskitchen.com/boilingpoint/?p=369#comment-2319 HERES MY EXPERIENCE. FIRST OFF THE TOP OF THE FOOD CHAIR (WHITES) HAS THEIR CHOICE OF EVERY COLOR. USUALLY A WHITE MAN WHO CANNOT GET THE WHITE WOMAN HE WANTS (HE IS A 3 AND HE WANTS A 9) HE GOES TO DIFFERENT RACE TO BEAT THE SYSTEM. HE CAN GET AN ATTRACTIVE NON-WHITE GIRL, BUT IF HE STAYED IN WHITE TOWN HE WOULD ACTUALLY HAVE TO DATE HIS EQUAL (THAT BEING A 3), HE DOSE NOT WANT HIS EQUAL SO HE SELFISHLY MIXES WITH OTHER RACES TO GET WHAT HE DOSE NOT DESERVE (THE 8 ON THE ATTRACTIVE SCALE). WHAT THE ALL THE PLAYERS IN THIS GAME BEGIN TO REALIZE IS THAT THIS IN EQUALITY IS REALLY A PAYOFF. THE NOMINAL GUY GET ATTRACTIVE NON WHITE, SHE GETS A LEG UP ON THE STATUS LADDER. HE GETS SOMEONE WHO IS MORE CONTROLLABLE, SHE HAS TO COWER TO KEEP HER POSITION (BECAUSE HE HAS HIS PICK OF MILLIONS OF OTHER YOUNGER ATTRACTIVE NON WHITES CLAMORING FOR HIM), YOU SEE WHEN HE TRAVELS OUTSIDE WHITE DATING HE BECOME A CELEBRITY. HE FEEDS HIS EGO. IT A VERY DYSFUNCTIONAL SITUATION. IN AMERICA ONLY LESS THAN 5% MARRY OUTSIDE THEIR RACE. MANY OF THESE SITUATIONS ARE UNHAPPY AND END. STICK TO YOUR OWN COLOR. IF YOU TRAVEL OUTSIDE THE BOUNDS, YOUR RUINING THE BLOODLINES. YOUR ALSO SELFISH AND DISRESPECT YOUR OWN COLOR. WHITES MAKE UP 8% OF OF THE WORLD POPULATION. THE REST OF THE WORLD ARE DARK HAIR EYES SKIN. WHITES YOUR RARE AND YOU WILL BE EXTINCT IF YOU KEEP TRYING TO GET WOMEN YOU DO NOT DESERVE. AS FOR WHITE WOMEN WHO DATE WHITE MEN, THESE ARE DESPERATE FEMALES. USUALLY THE ONES WHO MOVE INTO NON WHITE RACES CANNOT GET A WHITE MAN INTERESTED IN THEM OR THE ONES THAT ARE ON AGAIN ON THEIR ATTRACTIVE LEVEL. DATE YOUR EQUALS DON'T............... HERES MY EXPERIENCE. FIRST OFF THE TOP OF THE FOOD CHAIR (WHITES) HAS THEIR CHOICE OF EVERY COLOR. USUALLY A WHITE MAN WHO CANNOT GET THE WHITE WOMAN HE WANTS (HE IS A 3 AND HE WANTS A 9) HE GOES TO DIFFERENT RACE TO BEAT THE SYSTEM. HE CAN GET AN ATTRACTIVE NON-WHITE GIRL, BUT IF HE STAYED IN WHITE TOWN HE WOULD ACTUALLY HAVE TO DATE HIS EQUAL (THAT BEING A 3), HE DOSE NOT WANT HIS EQUAL SO HE SELFISHLY MIXES WITH OTHER RACES TO GET WHAT HE DOSE NOT DESERVE (THE 8 ON THE ATTRACTIVE SCALE). WHAT THE ALL THE PLAYERS IN THIS GAME BEGIN TO REALIZE IS THAT THIS IN EQUALITY IS REALLY A PAYOFF. THE NOMINAL GUY GET ATTRACTIVE NON WHITE, SHE GETS A LEG UP ON THE STATUS LADDER. HE GETS SOMEONE WHO IS MORE CONTROLLABLE, SHE HAS TO COWER TO KEEP HER POSITION (BECAUSE HE HAS HIS PICK OF MILLIONS OF OTHER YOUNGER ATTRACTIVE NON WHITES CLAMORING FOR HIM), YOU SEE WHEN HE TRAVELS OUTSIDE WHITE DATING HE BECOME A CELEBRITY. HE FEEDS HIS EGO. IT A VERY DYSFUNCTIONAL SITUATION. IN AMERICA ONLY LESS THAN 5% MARRY OUTSIDE THEIR RACE. MANY OF THESE SITUATIONS ARE UNHAPPY AND END. STICK TO YOUR OWN COLOR. IF YOU TRAVEL OUTSIDE THE BOUNDS, YOUR RUINING THE BLOODLINES. YOUR ALSO SELFISH AND DISRESPECT YOUR OWN COLOR. WHITES MAKE UP 8% OF OF THE WORLD POPULATION. THE REST OF THE WORLD ARE DARK HAIR EYES SKIN. WHITES YOUR RARE AND YOU WILL BE EXTINCT IF YOU KEEP TRYING TO GET WOMEN YOU DO NOT DESERVE.
AS FOR WHITE WOMEN WHO DATE WHITE MEN, THESE ARE DESPERATE FEMALES. USUALLY THE ONES WHO MOVE INTO NON WHITE RACES CANNOT GET A WHITE MAN INTERESTED IN THEM OR THE ONES THAT ARE ON AGAIN ON THEIR ATTRACTIVE LEVEL. DATE YOUR EQUALS DON’T……………

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]]> By: Rraine Selek http://fromgrandmaskitchen.com/boilingpoint/2009/07/18/a-white-woman-explains-why-she-prefers-black-men/#comment-2301 Rraine Selek Sun, 13 Jun 2010 17:03:24 +0000 http://fromgrandmaskitchen.com/boilingpoint/?p=369#comment-2301 I have to say I agree with the writer and Anne. I have only recently started dating a black man, and I personally find it has been a much healthier relationship than any of my previous relationships with white men. Or my ex husband who was Turkish. I did not go into the relationship lightly and it has caused some conflict in my very Southern family, but ultimately, he treats me very well, treats my son better than his own father does, and yes... the sex is great. But, I am with him because he is such a great man, the sex is just a bonus. He never had an issue hooking up with me as he has mostly dated white women, but this was my first time dating a black man and it was a bit confusing to me to realize that I felt such a strong physical attraction to this man. Now I am glad that I took that chance and have met such a great man. I have to say I agree with the writer and Anne. I have only recently started dating a black man, and I personally find it has been a much healthier relationship than any of my previous relationships with white men. Or my ex husband who was Turkish. I did not go into the relationship lightly and it has caused some conflict in my very Southern family, but ultimately, he treats me very well, treats my son better than his own father does, and yes… the sex is great.

But, I am with him because he is such a great man, the sex is just a bonus. He never had an issue hooking up with me as he has mostly dated white women, but this was my first time dating a black man and it was a bit confusing to me to realize that I felt such a strong physical attraction to this man. Now I am glad that I took that chance and have met such a great man.

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]]> By: Izziebelle http://fromgrandmaskitchen.com/boilingpoint/2009/07/18/a-white-woman-explains-why-she-prefers-black-men/#comment-2060 Izziebelle Wed, 26 May 2010 05:06:53 +0000 http://fromgrandmaskitchen.com/boilingpoint/?p=369#comment-2060 <b>@BB</b>: I have my own theories as to the attraction between white woman and black man vs black woman and white man. However, I am please of your version and I respect that. @BB:
I have my own theories as to the attraction between white woman and black man vs black woman and white man. However, I am please of your version and I respect that.

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]]> By: Anne http://fromgrandmaskitchen.com/boilingpoint/2009/07/18/a-white-woman-explains-why-she-prefers-black-men/#comment-1981 Anne Mon, 17 May 2010 13:04:57 +0000 http://fromgrandmaskitchen.com/boilingpoint/?p=369#comment-1981 Maybe I'm a minority here or maybe a lot of other women are afraid to comment but, I agree,...for the most part, that is. White men aren't awful, unattractive as a few other readers have already said. They're great, in fact. That should never be said. It's just that they don't excite some us sexually, anymore. I am in my thirties and have been married (yes, white). That didn't work out but, it has released me to do things I was afraid to before. I dated a black guy in college so, I learned early about the sexual differences between white and black men (which I found to be true). I thought I could put all of that behind me and just be happy in the way I thought it was supposed to be. But, I couldn't. It haunted me and think I always knew it even though I worked hard to suppress it. I date only black men now, like the writer. I'm not un intelligent or "pudgy", Lol. In fact I'm quite attractive, slender and work hard. I date them because I Can and it's what I want, not what someone else says I want. Sexually, it's liberating and intoxicating. It's also what works for me for satisfaction. That's not meant to offend anyone, it's just my personal preference and I'm ok with that after having experienced enough other to know. I don't advertise, flaunt or make a big deal out of it and I don't think anyone else should. More women are coming to the same conclusion so, there's clearly something to it and if we can't talk and be adult about then that's where it becomes a problem. I hope this helps. It was meant to be supportive and not demeaning to anyone. Maybe I’m a minority here or maybe a lot of other women are afraid to comment but, I agree,…for the most part, that is. White men aren’t awful, unattractive as a few other readers have already said. They’re great, in fact. That should never be said. It’s just that they don’t excite some us sexually, anymore.

I am in my thirties and have been married (yes, white). That didn’t work out but, it has released me to do things I was afraid to before. I dated a black guy in college so, I learned early about the sexual differences between white and black men (which I found to be true). I thought I could put all of that behind me and just be happy in the way I thought it was supposed to be. But, I couldn’t. It haunted me and think I always knew it even though I worked hard to suppress it.

I date only black men now, like the writer. I’m not un intelligent or “pudgy”, Lol. In fact I’m quite attractive, slender and work hard. I date them because I Can and it’s what I want, not what someone else says I want.

Sexually, it’s liberating and intoxicating. It’s also what works for me for satisfaction. That’s not meant to offend anyone, it’s just my personal preference and I’m ok with that after having experienced enough other to know. I don’t advertise, flaunt or make a big deal out of it and I don’t think anyone else should.

More women are coming to the same conclusion so, there’s clearly something to it and if we can’t talk and be adult about then that’s where it becomes a problem. I hope this helps. It was meant to be supportive and not demeaning to anyone.

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]]> By: BILL http://fromgrandmaskitchen.com/boilingpoint/2009/07/18/a-white-woman-explains-why-she-prefers-black-men/#comment-1712 BILL Sat, 17 Apr 2010 05:23:03 +0000 http://fromgrandmaskitchen.com/boilingpoint/?p=369#comment-1712 AS OLDER BLACK MAN I FIND A LOT OF THIS TO BE TRUE, I FIND THAT IT'S NOT A PLEASANT, THING DATING OLDER BLACK WOMEN, MOST WANT YOU TO WINE & DINE THEM & THEY ARE ALWAYS ASKING FOR RESPECT, ME I BELIEVE IF YOU RESPECT YOUR SELF YOU DON'T HAVE TO ASK FOR IT. AS OLDER BLACK MAN I FIND A LOT OF THIS TO BE TRUE, I FIND THAT IT’S NOT A PLEASANT, THING DATING OLDER BLACK WOMEN, MOST WANT YOU TO WINE & DINE THEM & THEY ARE ALWAYS ASKING FOR RESPECT, ME I BELIEVE IF YOU RESPECT YOUR SELF YOU DON’T HAVE TO ASK FOR IT.

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]]> By: Chrissy http://fromgrandmaskitchen.com/boilingpoint/2009/07/18/a-white-woman-explains-why-she-prefers-black-men/#comment-1329 Chrissy Sat, 27 Feb 2010 20:11:37 +0000 http://fromgrandmaskitchen.com/boilingpoint/?p=369#comment-1329 First Italians are not white. lol Second, You're truly missing out. There is something awesome and sexy about most men in general. Every race has at least one man that is wonderfully sexy. Black men have their energy, understanding, let us not forget rhythm ;) White men have unmistakable loyalty and a willingness to please. Italians and other Latin men have their openness and awesome passion! Slavic men have crazy stamina and self discipline. But then again these are all based on average of my experiences with men. I love men, they are incredibly sexy and almost everyone of them has something to love. Black women do not hate us because we are stealing their men…they hate us because Black people in general only represent 13% of our US population, under half of that is Black men. Out of the small percentage of these men, are an even smaller percentage of hot, smart, available, awesome and dedicated men ready and willing for a real time commitment. This small percentage of men are in short supply and when you know this and are looking for one and you see one and he with a white woman, it’s frustrating! You, running around scavenging for these guys makes it more than frustrating, it’s infuriating! Not just for Black women but for white women who HAVE simply fallen in love with a Black man. Sleep with who you want to, black men, Black women for all I care, but to seek out people based on some drastically less than real porn like fantasy, makes you no better that fat guy (white or black) hanging out eating cheetoes expecting some hot chick to deliver his pizza and want him for who he is. Just sad. First Italians are not white. lol Second, You’re truly missing out. There is something awesome and sexy about most men in general. Every race has at least one man that is wonderfully sexy. Black men have their energy, understanding, let us not forget rhythm ;) White men have unmistakable loyalty and a willingness to please. Italians and other Latin men have their openness and awesome passion! Slavic men have crazy stamina and self discipline.
But then again these are all based on average of my experiences with men. I love men, they are incredibly sexy and almost everyone of them has something to love.
Black women do not hate us because we are stealing their men…they hate us because Black people in general only represent 13% of our US population, under half of that is Black men. Out of the small percentage of these men, are an even smaller percentage of hot, smart, available, awesome and dedicated men ready and willing for a real time commitment. This small percentage of men are in short supply and when you know this and are looking for one and you see one and he with a white woman, it’s frustrating! You, running around scavenging for these guys makes it more than frustrating, it’s infuriating! Not just for Black women but for white women who HAVE simply fallen in love with a Black man. Sleep with who you want to, black men, Black women for all I care, but to seek out people based on some drastically less than real porn like fantasy, makes you no better that fat guy (white or black) hanging out eating cheetoes expecting some hot chick to deliver his pizza and want him for who he is. Just sad.

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]]> By: lexibugg004 http://fromgrandmaskitchen.com/boilingpoint/2009/07/18/a-white-woman-explains-why-she-prefers-black-men/#comment-1239 lexibugg004 Fri, 19 Feb 2010 02:33:35 +0000 http://fromgrandmaskitchen.com/boilingpoint/?p=369#comment-1239 i am so tired of white women and black men feeling as if they have to justify their preferences, and doing so by tearing down the men and women of their own race,it makes you appear to be mentally ill!!! i am a black woman married to a white man. i have been attracted to white men and men of other ethnicities since i was a very little girl. it was normal and came so naturally, and was never a big deal. i have never had a problem attracting men of any ethnicity. maybe its because i grew up with a multi ethnic family, and am the result of a black man(Haitian)dating outside of his race (mom is Irish Dominican and Quapaw),as well as my mother, and her mother, and probably hers a well. but i have never been ashamed of it or felt the need to justify it by saying it was because something is wrong with black men. my attraction to others has nothing to do with black men. i have never had a serious relationship with one, and my last black boyfriend was during freshman year of high school. it has been white men since, but not because of him, but because it was simply a better more naturally fit for me that had to do with interest, comfort level, and the emotional intimacy. i love red heads, and blonds. find blue eyes mesmerizing, and have a hobby of counting freckles. my only issue is if one more broad or dude generalizes all black women and make it sound as if we are all mad bitches foaming at the mouth over black men being with white women, i might have to hurt somebody. but only because i hate being generalized, stereotyped, and having prejudice and ignorance projected on to me. if we all stopped engaging in those behaviors, no one would have to justify their sexual preferences. i am so tired of white women and black men feeling as if they have to justify their preferences, and doing so by tearing down the men and women of their own race,it makes you appear to be mentally ill!!! i am a black woman married to a white man. i have been attracted to white men and men of other ethnicities since i was a very little girl. it was normal and came so naturally, and was never a big deal. i have never had a problem attracting men of any ethnicity. maybe its because i grew up with a multi ethnic family, and am the result of a black man(Haitian)dating outside of his race (mom is Irish Dominican and Quapaw),as well as my mother, and her mother, and probably hers a well. but i have never been ashamed of it or felt the need to justify it by saying it was because something is wrong with black men. my attraction to others has nothing to do with black men. i have never had a serious relationship with one, and my last black boyfriend was during freshman year of high school. it has been white men since, but not because of him, but because it was simply a better more naturally fit for me that had to do with interest, comfort level, and the emotional intimacy. i love red heads, and blonds. find blue eyes mesmerizing, and have a hobby of counting freckles.
my only issue is if one more broad or dude generalizes all black women and make it sound as if we are all mad bitches foaming at the mouth over black men being with white women, i might have to hurt somebody. but only because i hate being generalized, stereotyped, and having prejudice and ignorance projected on to me. if we all stopped engaging in those behaviors, no one would have to justify their sexual preferences.

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]]> By: Allison http://fromgrandmaskitchen.com/boilingpoint/2009/07/18/a-white-woman-explains-why-she-prefers-black-men/#comment-828 Allison Wed, 16 Dec 2009 06:34:45 +0000 http://fromgrandmaskitchen.com/boilingpoint/?p=369#comment-828 I'm white, and my boyfriend is black. We started dating because when we got to talking, we had so much in common. I didn't search him out because he was black. In fact, it made me a little nervous. He was the first non-white guy I have ever dated, let alone slept with. And I have to agree, he is more gentlemanly and way better in bed than any white guy I have been with. I disagree on one point, however. I am looking to marry my black boyfriend- I'm not in it just for the sex. I’m white, and my boyfriend is black. We started dating because when we got to talking, we had so much in common. I didn’t search him out because he was black. In fact, it made me a little nervous. He was the first non-white guy I have ever dated, let alone slept with. And I have to agree, he is more gentlemanly and way better in bed than any white guy I have been with. I disagree on one point, however. I am looking to marry my black boyfriend- I’m not in it just for the sex.

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]]> By: AJ http://fromgrandmaskitchen.com/boilingpoint/2009/07/18/a-white-woman-explains-why-she-prefers-black-men/#comment-624 AJ Fri, 25 Sep 2009 22:54:57 +0000 http://fromgrandmaskitchen.com/boilingpoint/?p=369#comment-624 I appreciate your honesty, but as a black woman who's boyfriend is white, that is rather insulting. White men are not this horrible thing that you make out to be. I have dated/relationships with black men all my life. There are cultural differences, yes. But the white men treat me much differently than black men. There are some white men in their 40s that are absolutely gorgeous. You probably just attract the "white pudgy types". Don't date black men, just because of sex, it's degrading and slutty. I appreciate your honesty, but as a black woman who’s boyfriend is white, that is rather insulting. White men are not this horrible thing that you make out to be. I have dated/relationships with black men all my life. There are cultural differences, yes. But the white men treat me much differently than black men. There are some white men in their 40s that are absolutely gorgeous. You probably just attract the “white pudgy types”. Don’t date black men, just because of sex, it’s degrading and slutty.

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]]> By: tns http://fromgrandmaskitchen.com/boilingpoint/2009/07/18/a-white-woman-explains-why-she-prefers-black-men/#comment-536 tns Sat, 29 Aug 2009 21:50:44 +0000 http://fromgrandmaskitchen.com/boilingpoint/?p=369#comment-536 i think that's bullshit! it's for SHOW & as you described on PURPOSE!!! i think that’s bullshit! it’s for SHOW & as you described on PURPOSE!!!

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]]> By: BB http://fromgrandmaskitchen.com/boilingpoint/2009/07/18/a-white-woman-explains-why-she-prefers-black-men/#comment-524 BB Wed, 19 Aug 2009 18:38:34 +0000 http://fromgrandmaskitchen.com/boilingpoint/?p=369#comment-524 I appreciate that you expressed your preference for black men without being disrespectful to black women. I appreciate that you expressed your preference for black men without being disrespectful to black women.

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