They resent our taking their men. Black men are two and a half times more likely to marry a white woman than a black woman is to marry a white man. Black women can point to that statistic in justifying their wrath. But in truth, black sisters, we’re after the sex, not the ringand these guys aren’t the marrying kind anyway.

what happens if i, a black girl, ever have to meet his white racist family? where i’m on my WWJD kick today, what will i do when i’m staring racism in the face? Ofay Melee anyone?

Last night (like many nights over the past four years), he told me he loved me but that he wasn’t sure he was ready to move forward. When I asked him why, all he could say, all he ever can say is “I don’t know.”

Whether we choose to acknowledge it or not, her color matters. What does it say to Black women, Black girls all across the world that arguably the most powerful man in the world is married to a Black woman? And not just a any Black woman…a chocolate one? Ok, mocha-choco-latte…whatever, she ain’t “high yella” or “red bone” if you wanna go there and if you didn’t, I just did.

NBC News report on the increase of African-American women dating outside their race.

Exposure to new customs doesn’t mean one leaves their roots behind. Our cultures make us who we are, and that can never be taken away.

Back in college when I spent my free time combing the stacks for books on race relations that were published in the 1960s and 70s that hadn’t been checked out for years, I could’ve never imagined that at age 30-something I’d be in a relationship with none other than a White man.